While we’re growing up, it’s very common for us to get advice from various people and other sources. While we appreciate the concern of all of these people, more often than not this advice just gets annoying to listen to.
This advice that we receive can be classified into the following categories:
The starting point of all the stupid advice that we keep hearing from literally everyone elder to us. During the age of adolescence, we are going through our final years at school and have our 10th and 12th standard board exams to sit for. This leads to us getting a heck of a lot of suggestions and comments about how we should go about these. It’s acceptable, but if people are so interested in our lives, then why can’t we just receive some worthy information and advice from them? Tell us about how to relax, how to enjoy our studies, how to balance our time, or just how we could be more confident about our academics. I mean how tough could that be?
One of the stupidest things ever. We always hear parents and elders telling us phrases like
“Now isn’t the right time,”
“Focus on your studies now. The girl/boy will come later.”
“Don’t cross your limits. You’re too young for all of this. After you grow up, you will have the right mind to be able to be smart enough for all this.”
It’s a common sight to see that though they all seem really chill when we talk to them about our friends having their own respective boyfriends/girlfriends, somehow when the discussion of us being in a relationship starts, these random comments spring up.
Parents, elders, the people who know better than us about life, please tell me one thing. Didn’t y’all ever have a crush on anyone during your school and college days? If the answer is a no, then sorry to say, but I don’t believe you! It’s just human adolescent nature! Blame it on Biology, not on us!
- Sports and Extra-curriculars
As kids we learnt that “All work and no play made Jack a dull boy.”
However, when we start to play sports or get involved in a host of other activities, we are told to focus on the necessary and leave out the unnecessary. So if this is what they wanted us to do in the first place, then why tell us that it’s good to do something apart from studies too?
For example, if I want to play Cricket and I have the potential to go ahead with it in life, then why should I be stopped from doing so? Where does it say that I have to have a great educational background in order to do something with my life?
The common thread is the fact that all the advice that we’re given somehow relates back to our studies and how that should be our first priority. Why is trying to make us into Einstein such an important task? Isn’t life short-lived? Isn’t happiness more important?
Do what you want to do, what you feel you should do. Become what you want to be, what you feel you should be.
Best wishes always,